Motivational Speaking To Yourself For Wisdom

Just about everyone has heard of motivational speaking, but how many really understand the power of motivational THINKING, and how to access it?

While developing communication skills for our interpersonal relationships is an essential part of personal development for team building and leadership, success and great family relationships, the most important dimension of successful communication goes on between you and yourself!

How you think is how you communicate with yourself.

You speak to yourself with mental words and pictures.

To solve your problems and come up strategies for success, you basically consult with yourself.

You formulate a problem or a goal and then you ask yourself, “Now, what can I do about this?”

But, the way you feel impacts the way you think.

The time to engage in strategic thinking about your life is when you feel truly emotionally balanced, in a calm state of harmonious feeling.

Then you can think clearly, accurately and constructively.

When you think in a state of emotional balance you can use your power of thought to direct your life.

You can think about what you want to accomplish and come up with ideas of how to accomplish it.

We can define emotional balance as the foundation for an authentic, positive attitude, turning you into a motivational speaker for yourself: one who can tune into positive thinking for problem-solving, goal-setting and goal achievement.

If you feel blocked or unable to solve your problems or arrive at strategies for success, check on how you are feeling at the time.

Your attitude, mood or emotional state represents the key that either locks or unlocks the mind’s potential for accessing positive solutions and successful strategies.

As long as you feel nervous, uptight, impatient, frustrated, insecure or disappointed, your thinking can do no more than reinforce those disturbed emotional states.

 By letting go of your tensions and intensity and simply trusting that everything is going to work out fine, you render accessible the creative ideas that can show you the way.

Developing the SELF-communication skills of thinking from calm instead of from stress is a way of applying team building and leadership in your relationship with yourself.

When you feel calm, secure and trusting, your state of inner harmony and balance will open your mind to positive thinking for problem-solving, goal setting and goal achievement.

By following this self-help wisdom you will receive motivational speaking from your mind, bolstering your spirit with real solutions and strategies.

Stress Management For Team Building



Team building is undermined by anger and stress in the workplace.

 As anger and stress levels rise, interpersonal conflict increases.

I dealt with this recently in my work with a team leader in a construction firm.  His team was in dire need of anger management and stress management training.

Workers were arguing, finding passive aggressive ways to sabotage one another, and they even had a violent outbreak.  Petty theft seemed on the rise as well.

I was originally brought in as a motivational speaker to boost worker attitude to improve teamwork.

But it became glaringly obvious that these workers were having a hard time coping with change and coping with uncertainty, as their team leadership had gone through 3 transitions in the past 9 months. 

I helped this relatively inexperienced, new team leader understand that worker motivation and stress do not go together.

I helped him understand how teams lose motivation as anger rises.

There was a tremendous amount of griping going on throughout the workforce, severely damaging team morale.

So the team training that I presented began with a short session to management, focusing on the relationship between communication and stress.

Because this workforce had gone through so much change in such a short span of time, they needed to be communicated with in ways that would reduce their stress.

 Communicating in a way that suggests a sufficient amount of transparency is a way that leadership can manage stress in the workplace.

As leadership clearly explained, in team meetings, why team leadership had to change, and what team members can expect going forward, they helped team members better manage emotion.

The next stage of the team building training I presented directly to the work teams.  This included anger management tips to improve their attitude.

One tip helped them see the difference between what happens and how they react to what happens.

They got this lesson on anger and stress management for team building by simply writing down something that occurred, and then describing their angry or stressful reaction to that.

I had them draw a circle around the event.  Then they drew a circle around their description of their reaction.

We did this over and over, and each time it became clearer to those workers how their anger and stress was NOT caused by the changes and uncertainty they were facing at work.

They really SAW that how they responded to what happened was how they made themselves feel in response to what happened. This simple shift helped them to respond more positively.

We also focused on how maintaining a confident attitude translates into more positive relationships, a happier workday, improved worker safety and higher productivity.

The end-result was that we solved the problem of a grumbling workplace with a two-pronged assault:

  1. First, I worked with the corporate team of leaders on increasing transparency in communication for employee stress reduction.
  2. I then presented 2 consecutive days of team building seminars on anger and stress management to the construction work-teams.

As a result, the workplace atmosphere changed. Interpersonal relations improved. The griping greatly diminished and the negative impact of the residue was largely neutralized.

And this, in turn, led to improved team building through a reduction of anger and stress.

Improve Effective Communication In The Workplace

communication skills training for team buildingEffective communication does NOT happen automatically.

 Communication in the workplace demands the development and application of essential communication skills.

Constructive professional communication requires, for instance, the skill of professionalism in communication.

Professionalism in communication means NOT taking what comes up during the communication process personally.

It means relating PROFESSIONALLY, which means responding in ways that advance accomplishment.

Taking communication personally means reacting emotionally in ways that undermine, rather than support, one’s professional objectives.

One of the biggest blockages to effective communication in the workplace is the fact that many of us seem to believe that HOW to communicate well means simply speaking your mind.

For the best team building results, though, it requires ongoing communication skills training.communication skills training for team building

One important skill to develop for communication success has to do with emotional reactions.

First, to improve communication, work on developing your ability to NOT react emotionally to the words that you hear.

Practice deliberately remaining calm, emotionally neutral, in response to the words you hear.

In emotional balance, you can think clearly and strategize your response in line with your objectives.

In one of my recent motivational speaking events on team building, one of the communication skills exercises I suggested was this:

Spend one week working on being more aware of your emotional reaction to words that you hear or read, and to practice remaining calm, relaxed and emotionally neutral to help you to formulate a response-strategy that will further your real objectives. 

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For effective communication in the workplace, try out this communication skills exercise and please feel welcome to share your results, and any questions you might have, about this exercise and other ways to improve communication.

Mental Sales Team Training

There may be no more important KEY to effective sales team trainings than the MENTAL key.

You give yourself an invaluable HEAD START (no pun intended) for sales success by first envisioning yourself (in your head) as a successful sales professional.

Look for how you are already a sales success and you will see the ways that you are already achieving success in sales.

A MAJOR mistake made by struggling sales teams is depending upon circumstances to shape their professional self-concept.

This demonstrates a level of ignorance regarding how the mind works, and how to put YOUR mind to work for YOU.

 Look for how you are failing at sales and
you will see how you are failing.

 Look for how you are succeeding in selling and
you will see how you are succeeding.

The principal of mental mechanics that we are looking at here is simply this: You find what you look for.

It doesn’t matter AT ALL how much sales success you have achieved, because even the most successful salesperson in the world can feel inadequate, inferior and UN-successful if he or she looks for reasons to feel that way.

Envision yourself as a successful salesman or successful saleswoman.

Envision yourself with all of the satisfied clients or customers you want.

Routinely contemplate all that is great about what you are selling and why you are selling it.

Discipline your mind to stay out of thought-lines that undermine your belief in yourself or in what you sell.

When you don’t achieve a sale-closing, or even when a gate-keeper blocks your way, trust that you are still on a TOTALLY SUCCESSFUL sales course and you will find your trust justified.

If you worry about your sales career or any particular sales process “going south” you deliver to yourself the demoralizing experience of that happening.

Sales professionals need regular sales trainings that help them to:

1. Identify and reject negative thinking habits

2. Cultivate ever-deeper belief in who they are and in what they are selling.

Success in ANY field, including selling, demands mental mastery.

And the mastery that produces sales team success is ongoing MENTAL Sales Team Training that reinforces a focus on selling success.